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Gimme Thirteen!

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I have heard it said on many occasions from several reliable sources: “It takes thirteen positive comments to make up for one negative comment.”

Now, I want to be honest. I have been unable to find the scientific research to back this up, so if anyone out there has access to that empirical data, please hook me up.

However, something about the statement speaks to my heart. I highly suspect that it does take thirteen positive comments to make up for one negative comment. What do you think? Read more »

When It's Not All Good (thoughts on constructive criticism in ministry)

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"It’s All Good.” You’ve probably heard that phrase before, and I want to tell you from the start that I have never been a fan of it. While I suspect that the intention of those who utter those words is to be positive and look for the good things in life (a very noble thing!), I still don’t like the phrase because, quite frankly, sometimes things in life are not good. An honest appraisal of reality reveals that many things can be bad, hurtful, unfortunate, and evil. We live in a sinful, broken, fallen world and sometimes even the most well-intentioned people miss the mark; even those of us in ministry. And while I definitely believe that good can come out of even the worst situations, let’s be honest - sometimes it’s not all good. Even in ministry. Read more »

I Love Those Cubs!

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Now, please... 

Don’t freak out.

Don’t remind me that the Cubs haven’t seen World Series action since 1945...and they lost!

Don’t rub it in my face that they haven’t won a World Series in over 100 years.

Don’t tell me to jump on HWY 55 and drive until I land in The Lake. Read more »

Which Captain Are You?

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Recently I had a meeting with my friend and boss, Msgr. John Borcic.  He is the director of the Catholic Youth Apostolate for the Archdiocese of St. Louis and a source of great wisdom and encouragement for all of us in the agency and for all who know him.  He shared with me a story from his past that I would like to share with you because it encouraged and challenged me. Read more »

Teaching Teens to Drive

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My wife Lisa and I have embarked upon a new phase in parenting; our twin teenagers both have their permits, and we are teaching them how to drive.  I recently mentioned this fascinating fact as my Facebook status update, and received an interesting array of comments, ranging from silliness to encouragement to promises of prayers (which we sincerely appreciate!).  The most inspiring response of all came from my long-term friend Steve Givens; something he wrote when he was going through the same thing, and with his permission I want to share it with you now; I will add a brief comment afterwards.

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Juno’s Baby’s Fingernails

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I recently watched the movie Juno for the 2nd time with some of my very good friends, and it caused me to laugh and to smile and reflect - and my eyes even got a little misty a time or two.

But there is one scene in particular that I can’t get out of my mind.  On the DVD it is scene #7 called “Fingernails” and it lasts 2:49.  Here’s what happens, for those who have not yet seen the movie...and to refresh the memories of those who have. Read more »