The other day, I was chasing my two year old daughter Emily around the coffee table in our living room and I realized how much fun she was having. At that moment, I was her whole world. I am not sure what she understands at a two year old level, but I think she was enjoying knowing that she was that special that daddy would take the time to chase her. On some level, I think she was in touch with something that I hope she never forgets- there is something about her that is so special that it is worth chasing after- she has dignity that no one can steal.

The world we live in saturates the minds of women with the message that their value is conditional- that men will chase them if they are promiscuous or at least dress in a revealing way that tells men they have a shot at getting what they see if they will play chase. But this is not a good message- women should be chased because of who they are, not what they are willing to give away.

Some people are of the mindset that it is “old fashioned” to think that only guys should chase girls today, that somehow if women don’t make the first move every now and then, they are passive and letting a male-dominated culture repress who they were created to be. This could not be further from the truth. Being receptive is highly underrated today. To be open to receiving is a dynamic posture- it is not passive.

As a man, it is a great honor to be a part of God’s plan- a plan that includes the way the sexes complement one another. I have the duty to guard women from the garbage message they are bombarded with about their value and dignity and to remind them often of the truth that God inscribed on their heart. Women can help remind men of their dignity too, but men are not bombarded with the same message about conditional value. Not every little girl was chased by their earthly father and taught those important lessons when they were young, but every girl’s heart has been penned by the Creator with a love message that I can echo if I will be man enough.

Hey guys- another cool thing about chasing girls is that it shows them that you know it is not about you. Guys who won’t chase and think they should just be able to take send off a vibe- they communicate a message to women that they want to be selfish or that they are self sufficient. God designed the sexes to complement each other so they could help each other get to heaven. Chasing girls shows them you know there is something in the other that you want or even need to be better than you are- I have been told that girls really like this : )

So what are you waiting for guys? Go find a girl to chase- it does not have to be about dating or romance. Just step up to the coffee table and play chase.